I'm reasonably sure that in my romantic life I've been willing to compromise with the people I've dated. But like I said, I have a bad track record. My first boyfriend was emotionally abusive (he's not that way NOW, and he treats his current girlfriend really well.
) the second guy I dated wasn't an alcoholic, but he did have some alcohol abuse problems. The LAST guy I dated WAS an alcoholic, was emotionally neglectful, was highly selfish, smoked like a chimney, and just wasn't at all good for me. Something he realized and admitted reasonably quickly - so he broke up with me.
I still think sometimes that if I'd done things differently he wouldn't have dumped me, but logically I know that's not the case. Even his friends keep telling me that it wasn't anything I did. I suppose if they hadn't been around to let me know that I wasn't to blame, I might still be blaming myself.
So now when I meet a guy that I like, I think "Will he be there emotionally if I need him? Does he have a good handle on what he wants out of life? Is he taking the necissary steps to achieve his goals? Do our personalities blend well?" amongst other questions. But then, when I answer yes to any of those questeions, I have to ask myself if this is really the case, or if I just WANT it to be the case. And I think I might second guess myself too much and miss out, you know?
When I was 21 I was happy being single for a few months (until my last boyfriend, really.) When I figure out just how I got to that point, I should be able to get there again. But I just don't know how the heck I got myself to the point where I was happy with single life.
Wow...I just rambled on quite a bit... :shock: